TY  - JOUR
PY  - 2019//
TI  - To see oneself as seen by others: a phenomenological analysis of the interpersonal motives and structure of shame
JO  - Journal of phenomenological psychology
A1  - Westerlund, Fredrik
SP  - 60
EP  - 89
VL  - 50
IS  - 1
N2  - This article develops a new phenomenological analysis of the interpersonal motives and structure of shame. I pursue the argument that shame is rooted in our desire for social affirmation and conditioned by our ability to see ourselves as we appear to others. My central thesis is that shame is what we feel when, due to some trait or action of ours, we come to perceive ourselves as fundamentally despicable and non-affirmable. By showing how our urge for affirmation fuels and informs our self-perception in shame, the analysis provides a better understanding of the simultaneously interpersonal and personal character of shame. Furthermore, it sheds new light on some central aspects of shame that have been insufficiently understood: on the emotional charge and quality of shame, on the role played by our values and identity in shame, and on the continuity, differences, and transfers between personal shame, social shame, and embarrassment.<p />  <p>Language: en</p>
LA  - en
SN  - 0047-2662
UR  - http://dx.doi.org/10.1163/15691624-12341354
ID  - ref1
ER  -